We often look and imagine that people and colleagues who are assertive and have confidence are naturally assertive and confident.
Assertiveness and confidence are about behaviour and not about people.
Positive thinking is crucial to assertiveness and confidence.
Your belief and thinking are integral to action you take that is assertive.
Assertive behaviour is when you stand up for your rights in a way that affirms the rights of the other person or people.
Causal model of behaviour is a process of thinking that influences feeling, which then influences actions you take.
Assertive behaviour are products of beliefs about yourself, what you think based on beliefs, feelings you derive from beliefs, and actions you take based on beliefs.
In order to behave assertively and be self-confidence:
1. Scrutinise your self-beliefs
This belief that I have about myself, are they accurate and factual?
Why do I hold this self-belief?
How does this self-belief influence the perceptions I hold about this person, the situation, this challenge, and myself?
2. Make a list of enabling / helpful beliefs about yourself, the person/people and situation
For example, “I am responsible for my actions just as the person is responsible for theirs.”
“My needs are as important as those of the other person.”
“I like myself and I recognise I am not perfect.”
“I can choose how I behave and no one should control my responses or behaviours.”
3. Think positive and well about yourself, the other person and the situation. Think consistently positive thoughts
Positive thoughts do have great impact on you and situations around you.
Brian Tracy, a leading authority on human potential and development, is quoted as saying, "You are a living magnet. What you attract into your life is in harmony with your dominant thoughts."
